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3 Tips to Writing an Online Dating Profile for Professionals

For the professional man or woman, posting an online dating profile can feel risky and far too revealing for comfort.

Can colleagues (or your ex!) potentially see your profile?

How much personal information can you share without risking appearing unprofessional?

What kinds of photos should you include?

Your answers are here.

Your Profile is NOT Private

The first thing you need to know is that you’ll have no control over who sees your online dating profile. Anyone who is participating in online dating, from a colleague, to an old flame, to your ex could potentially see your profile. There can be no reasonable expectation of privacy with online dating.

Don’t let that scare you away, but consider carefully what you’ll share and how you’ll share it.

Tip #1: Imagine your Grandmother seeing your profile. My profile shares plenty of personal details about me, but it contains nothing I would not be perfectly comfortable showing my grandmother (this includes my photos).

 

Your Profile is NOT a Résumé

The second thing you’ll need to consider when writing an online dating profile is who you are OUTSIDE of your career accomplishments.

Your professional accomplishments are a significant and important part of who you are, but when you’re out there in the dating world, remember you’re looking to connect with someone you want to spend your time away from the office with.

Not sure where to start?

Tip #2: Try sharing something you’re interested in learning about. How to cook a pot roast, how to fold a fitted sheet, what a meme is, or the next place you’d like to explore in the great wide world.

 

Your Photos Matter

Third, I know it’s tempting to hire a professional photographer to take photos of you for your online dating profile, but don’t. I could explain why, but just trust me on this one for now. Do NOT include your professional headshot or the photo from your badge either.

Tip #3: Be sure your profile includes a Selfie as well as a full body shot.

Bonus Tip: The order in which you arrange the photos in your profile will make a difference in how people perceive you (and the kind of matches you receive), so give some careful consideration to that as well.

 

Busy and Need Help?

If you’d like me to show you the best order in which to post your photos or help to optimize your profile so that you maintain your professional image (while maximizing your chances of meeting someone you can really connect with) you can hire me for that.

Send me an email here to find out how soon I can work you into my calendar and for information on pricing for each of these services.

Your goals miss you, let’s plan a reunion!

Back on January 3, I challenged myself to create a new PR (personal record) in my yoga practice, which meant hitting my yoga mat A LOT.

20 times in just 11 days, to be exact.

It was definitely a stretch for me to squeeze practicing twice daily (with 1 scheduled day off in the middle of the challenge) into my busy life, but it was also a lot of fun to test myself and see if I could really do it.

As you can imagine, the feeling when I accomplished my goal was like having lit a huge fire (in the best possible way!). Plus, I got an added boost when I found out from the studio manager that my personal challenge had provided inspiration to many of the teachers and students who had watched me working towards my goal.

My personal challenge had provided inspiration for others. How awesome is that, right?

Don’t you get excited when you see or read about other people setting a goal or taking on a personal challenge and kicking butt at it?

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Is challenging yourself right up your alley?

I thought it would be fun if we spent the next 7 days or so celebrating what we’ve already achieved, and using that feeling of accomplishment to inspire and drive us to challenge ourselves to accomplish even more.

If you’re anything like me, you LOOOVE the feeling that comes along with NAILING a personal challenge. I’ve decided we’re going to use that feeling to spur us on to accomplish EVEN MORE.

But before we do, stop right now and take 5 minutes to write down something you have already achieved.

We’ll be using that achievement (and the positive feelings that go with it) to drive us towards achieving even more.

Did you write something down? Good.

Now, what are you going to challenge yourself to next? Harness the good feelings you received from what you have already accomplished (you did write that down, didn’t you?) and use them to drive you on towards your next goal or goals.

Also, let me know what you’re working towards so I can celebrate and feel the excitement along with you!

I’ll be back tomorrow afternoon to add more fuel to the fire, so look for my email then.

All the love,

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